Wrinkles are Meaningless in the Face of Female Beauty

Senior women are powerful and capable and strong and YES - BEAUTIFUL!!! 

Last month I was teaching a class at a local assisted living community and the topic was female beauty and aging.   My students were 15 women ages 76 - 94.  I have taught this class many times and I know that for the most part senior women do NOT generally identify themselves as beautiful.   What I keep hoping is that my seniors should know that beauty is more than physical attributes.  These are accomplished, experienced, wise, funny, intelligent, educated, beautiful women.  They have nurtured families, survived personal loss, overcome illness, stood strong in the face of adversity and paved the way for the rest of us.  

Here's my favorite definition of beauty - the combination of ALL qualities of a person or thing that delight the senses and please the mind.  What could that possibly have to do with being tall, thin and blonde?  And by the way, if you are tall, thin and blonde, I'm not mad at you.  That's not the point.  Here's the point - I have personally never been any of those things and you can't tell me I'm not beautiful.  Beauty is deeper than that.  And one more thing, if we don't understand the real depth or our own beauty, how can we expect our children or grandchildren or great grandchildren to understand it or claim their beauty.  

So for all my senior women who tell me they can no longer stand to look in the mirror, I want you to know you are breaking my heart and I am begging you to think long and hard about the consequences of that perspective.  We are counting on you to claim your voices and lead the way like you have in days gone by.  The wrinkles on your face are proof of your strength and without you we would not be allowed to own property or vote or attend college or run for office or own our own businesses.  Without you we would not understand the importance of the stay at home mom or the importance of balancing work and family. YOU are beautiful!  You are MORE than beautiful. You are awesome.  And we are not gonna let you forget it.  

Please listen to this edition of Senior Agenda for the complete commentary.

Seniors Have Already Funded their Own Social Security & Medicare

The cartoon above is shameful and indicative of the popular perspective of many young professionals and soon to be professionals in the workplace and at the university today.  It is an absolute misrepresentation of reality and pushes the misconception that seniors are a burden standing on the backs of others who carry the load while seniors get a free ride.  Those poor pitiful college graduates of this new millennium who took out student loans, can't get the salaries they believe they deserve and have been unfairly impacted by the great recession.  Research has it that those born between 1980 and 2000 or "Generation Y" are marked by an inflated sense of entitlement and lack work ethic.  They also reportedly hate criticism and suffer from higher levels of depression and chronic disenchantment.  In short, they are unhappy. Just a friendly reminder that seniors made those student loans possible, suffer from disproportionate poverty despite years of service and lived through the Great Depression.  Moreover, they have already paid to have their social security and Medicare funded.  In addition to being highly offensive, the cartoon also fails to depict the generation gap in any meaningful way.

Happy National Home Care Month

We spend much of the year celebrating a variety of medical professionals and providers in our community.  We also make every effort to honor the many observances that raise awareness about the wide array of health and wellness issues that impact seniors. Although we discuss all things senior, there has always been and will always be a focus on wellness.  November is National Home Care Month and we want to pause for a moment and honor the clinicians, aides, and other professionals who work so diligently in that arena.

I recently interviewed a guest who reported that research suggests that 89% of all seniors want to continue to live and eventually die at home.  "Yes, and the other 11% misread the question,"  I responded.  We all know that there's no place like home.  There's no place like home...There's no place like home.  Seniors prefer to be at home because it is more cost-effective and way more comfortable. It's home.

So what can be said for the nurses and therapists who choose to serve seniors at home?  They have to be more experienced, resourceful and self- reliant than most. Home care clinicians service the elderly struggling with multiple chronic and/or life-threatening conditions. Their work helps to alleviate unnecessary burdens on our hospital systems and avoid nursing home stays whenever possible. They are more likely to have to deal with emergency situations alone which means they need to be able to draw on their own experience and knowledge without the support of the doctor or nurse down the hall.  Then there are daily frustrations like traffic patterns, inclement weather, appointment cancellations and the unique challenges of providing care at home.  When was the last time a hospital nurse was asked to feed the dog on the way out?  The challenges of home care clinicians are among the most difficult in the industry.  Hats off to the dedicated and diligent professionals who work to help seniors stay at home.  

To learn more about home care in Ohio, visit The Ohio Council for Home Care and Hospice website or the Ohio Home Care Program website and follow the consumer links.  To learn more about the agency that sponsors Senior Agenda , visit Freedomhomehealth.com.

Death & Dying: Our Children Deserve to be Better Prepared

I pulled into the driveway and there he was standing in the window with the dog by his side.  They were waiting patiently for some word about the events of the night. I had left the house around midnight and now the sun was preparing to show itself. More hours had passed than I realized. Why didn't I think about this before now? How should I tell him?  What words should I use?  Oh God!  There is no time to ponder anything.  He sees me.  He has been waiting for hours.  I hope he wasn't afraid.  Why didn't I use the drive home to figure this out?  Mommy will be here in a minute, maybe she will know what to say.  I waited for her to pull in behind me and we got out together.  We were in shock. She was still trembling. I was numb and the tears that would flood my world in the coming days and weeks and months had not yet made an appearance.  The front door opened and he stepped out into the twilight and asked, "Where is Papa?"  Neither of us spoke as we walked towards him. "Go in house and put Moses away before he gets loose,"  I instructed.  "Ok, but where's Papa?  Did he have to stay?  Who's with him?  My son had already experienced more hardship than most but this kind of loss was still unknown to him. For a moment, I felt like a complete failure.  I could not protect him.  "Moses doesn't want to go out," he said.  I rolled my eyes and commanded the dog to go lay down somewhere but he was already laying down. "What's wrong," my son asked. My mother sat on the couch and asked my boy to come sit in her lap.  "Isaiah, Papa went to be with Jesus".  It was clear that he was not grasping the message that she was trying to convey so she tried again.  "What I mean is that Papa is needed in Heaven so that is where he went.  Do you understand," she asked.  Isaiah turned to me and asked, "Will he come back when he is finished doing what God needs him to do?"  "No, Isaiah.  Papa died at the hospital tonight."  I will never forget my child's reaction.  I could see the brutal reality of that night roll through his being.  I can still hear his sobbing. He was 12 years-old and until that day he had never sobbed.   Mommy sobbed. Isaiah sobbed.  No one spoke for almost an hour.

I have often wondered how that night might have played out differently and if it would have made a difference in the way my child processed his grief had I been better prepared.  As parents, we want to protect our children from harsh realities. Death is inevitable and unpredictable and real.  It is absolutely beyond our control. We cannot protect them from it. We can do a better job of preparing them for it. The experts agree that talking about the possibility before a tragedy occurs is best. To learn more about this important topic, tune into Senior Agenda this week. 

Do You Know How to Support Someone Facing Death?

Angelo Merendino aka Jennifer's Husband 

As a member of the healthcare community and the human race, I am witness to the fact that we are ill-equipped to know how to confront death or stand with someone who is facing it.  It's not that people do not care, but more that they do not know how to care.  We don't know how to care because we allow our fear to rule the journey.  We are so afraid to think about death that we do not talk about it, plan for it, or know how to see it through when given the opportunity.  This coming Thursday our topic on Senior Agenda will be "Confronting Death." We will examine two issues: 1) How to be supportive when someone we love is facing death and 2) How to talk to our children about death and dying.

At the top of the hour we will be interviewing Angelo Merendino who documented his wife's battle with cancer through a series of black and white photos in part because they were searching for a way to help their friends and loved ones stay involved.  Angelo wrote the following in his digital book called "The Battle We Didn't Choose" which is now available on his web site:

"Hospital stays of 10-plus days were not uncommon.  Frequent doctor visits led to battles with insurance companies.  Fear, anxiety and worries were constant.  Sadly, most people do not want to hear these realities and at certain points we felt our support fading away.  Other cancer survivors share this loss.  People assume that treatment makes you better, that things become OK, that life goes back to 'normal.' However, there is no normal in cancer-land. "  To learn more about this powerful story,  follow them on facebook and listen to Senior Agenda this week.  

We can learn to confront death if we work together and allow ourselves to learn from one another. We will all experience it.  It is one of those ties that bind.  The experience transcends all of our differences and has the potential to bring us closer together if we get can find a way to be brave enough to have these discussions. There are no do overs so it is imperative that we get it right when it presents.  

The Multiple Personalities of "Arthur Arthritis" and What Can Be Done

According to Morgan Patten, Program Manger for the Arthritis Foundation of Central Ohio, Arthur has over 100 personalities (including osteoarthritis and more) but there is hope for each and every one of them.  Morgan appeared on Senior Agenda on October 3rd to discuss the various types of arthritides, treatment remedies, and prevention. This edition of Senior Agenda will be a tremendous resource to anyone struggling with arthritis.  Listen here.  Morgan stressed the fact that arthritis is not inevitable as we age and also that it can be managed through life-style choices and medication.

Morgan will be teaching a four-part workshop called "Breaking the Pain Chain" starting on October 24th from 10- noon at the Arthritis Foundation located at 3740 Ridge Mill Drive in Hilliard.  The workshop is an interactive educational series designed to teach folks how to break the cycle of pain caused by arthritis.  The workshop is free but registration is required.  Contact Chris Parsons at 614-503-5589 or cparsons@arthritis.org to register.  The deadline for registration is October 17th.

To learn more visit the National Arthritis Foundation or listen to Senior Agenda.

News from the National Parkinson's Foundation

Daniel E. Davis, President and CEO of the National Parkinson's Foundation of Central Ohio, joined us on Senior Agenda on September 26th to discuss the signs, symptoms, and progression of the disease. Listen here.  Other guests discussed the experiences of family members and friends struggling with the disease.

Although Parkinson's Disease continues to be the 2nd most prevalent neurodegenerative disorder in the U.S., there is still no standard clinical tests available to identify the disease.  The disease often goes unrecognized until late in the progression. There is also still no cure. During the program we learned that symptoms range from tremors to slowed movement (bradykinesia) to impaired posture and balance to rigidity including "freezing."  We also learned about some treatment options and the need for public support in terms of raising awareness and donations for research.  Parkinson's is a painful, progressive disease that deserves our attention.  Learn more from the National Parkinson's Foundation.

Several famous folks have Parkinson's Disease including Muhammad Ali and Micheal J. Fox pictured above.  Muhammad Ali was diagnosed with Parkinson's in 1984 at the age of 42.  It is widely believed that professional athletes like football players and boxers develop the disease due to brain damage caused from multiple concussions or blows to the head. Learn about the Muhammad Ali Parkinson's Center.  Micheal J. Fox was diagnosed at age 30 and told he would be lucky to still be working at age 40, but today he is 52 years old and still working. In fact, the day this edition of Senior Agenda aired, his new comedy, "The Micheal J. Fox Show" premiered on NBC. Reviews were favorable.    Learn about the Michael J. Fox Foundation for Parkinson's Research.

How Does Shutdown Effect Social Security, Medicare and Other Senior Services?

So what are the consequences to seniors?  That depends on how long Washington allows this is go on.  Here's what we know now: 

• Social security checks and benefits will continue to be paid in full.  
• Medicare and Medicaid benefits will also continue as usual.  

If you lose your social security, Medicare or Medicaid identification cards, you will have to wait to have those replaced. That may or may not result in a delay of services. They are also not currently issuing proof of income letters.  Click here to visit the Official Social Security website for additional details.

• Vital services that ensure seniors and young children have access to healthy food and meals may not have sufficient federal funds to serve all beneficiaries.  
• Call centers, hotlines and regional offices that help veterans understand their benefits are closed.
• Every one of America's national parks and monuments, from Yosemite to the Smithsonian to the Statue of Liberty, are closed.  

The includes the WWII Memorial so those senior veterans coming in on Honor Flights or otherwise scheduled to visit are being denied access.    

• Research into life-threatening diseases and other areas have stopped, and new patients will not be accepted into clinical trials at the National Institute of Health.  

This means that cancer patients and others with life-threatening diseases are now on hold.  

Click here to learn more from USA.gov.

There are also going to be a number of unexpected consequences. For example, health care professionals are reporting that they cannot hire anyone because the federal center that processes background checks is closed. Healthcare background checks help prevent unqualified and potentially dangerous people from working in the medical field. This will likely compromise quality of care and availability of services due to staffing issues if the shutdown persist.   

And did we mention the already 800,000 federal workers who are not allowed to report to work?  That effects everyone.  The longer this shutdown last, the more of a negative impact it will have on the economy. 

How Does the Shutdown Effect Seniors and the Elderly?

So what are the consequences to seniors?  That depends on how long Washington allows this is go on.  Here's what we know now: 

• Social security checks and benefits will continue to be paid in full.  
• Medicare and Medicaid benefits will also continue as usual.  

If you lose your social security, Medicare or Medicaid identification cards, you will have to wait to have those replaced. That may or may not result in a delay of services. They are also not currently issuing proof of income letters.  Click here to visit the Official Social Security website for additional details.

• Vital services that ensure seniors and young children have access to healthy food and meals may not have sufficient federal funds to serve all beneficiaries.  
• Call centers, hotlines and regional offices that help veterans understand their benefits are closed.
• Every one of America's national parks and monuments, from Yosemite to the Smithsonian to the Statue of Liberty, are closed.  

The includes the WWII Memorial so those senior veterans coming in on Honor Flights or otherwise scheduled to visit are being denied access.    

• Research into life-threatening diseases and other areas have stopped, and new patients will not be accepted into clinical trials at the National Institute of Health.  

This means that cancer patients and others with life-threatening diseases are now on hold.  

Click here to learn more from USA.gov.

There are also going to be a number of unexpected consequences. For example, health care professionals are reporting that they cannot hire anyone because the federal center that processes background checks is closed. Healthcare background checks help prevent unqualified and potentially dangerous people from working in the medical field. This will likely compromise quality of care and availability of services due to staffing issues if the shutdown persist.   

And did we mention the already 800,000 federal workers who are not allowed to report to work?  That effects everyone.  The longer this shutdown last, the more of a negative impact it will have on the economy. 

Surveying the Senior Landscape - Commentary on the Government Shutdown

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The following is taken from an excerpt delivered at the top of the hour on Senior Agenda on 10/3/13.  Listen here. The views and opinions expressed here represent those of talk show host Lisa Stockdale.  Lisa is a senior advocate and is committed to addressing all issues that effect seniors.  Your comments are welcomed.  We reserve the right to remove comments which utilize excessive profanity or hate speech.  

Today we are entering day three of what is sure to go down in history as the infamous government shutdown of 2013.  It's going to be interesting to see how this whole thing plays out and just exactly who continues to have an elected post after our next election period.  

The one thing that our current elected leaders seem to be able to agree upon is - well actually nothing.  They can't even agree to disagree.  When you agree to disagree, it is implicitly understood that you also keep it moving.  Keep it moving as in continue to show up and work or do the job that you were assigned to do in a timely and acceptable manner.  At least that's what work means to me but then maybe I am just ridiculously old school.  Grown folks also understand that when you agree to disagree you are agreeing to co-exist in a respectful manner and to engage when there is a greater good to be served - like we the people.  But that's what's NOT happening.  What IS happening? 

It seems our government is divided and the concept of reaching across the aisle is lost in space.  The divide is centered around healthcare.  That's an issue that is near and dear to our hearts here on Senior Agenda.  

I'm gonna tell you how I see it.  You're not going to see it exactly the way I see it. That would make you me.  Thankfully, God only made one of me.  Just like He only made one of you.  

A group of tea party Republicans, led by Senator Ted Cruz of Texas and fueled by folks like Senator Rand Paul of Kentucky, decided that they would work together to curtail government funding.  Not because they believe the government shouldn't be funded but instead because they are vehemently opposed to the implementation of the Affordable Care Act also known as Obamacare.  They knew that by refusing to do their jobs, which is according to the Constitution to FUND the government, they would evoke the government shut down.  It was a strategic, purposeful, planned action with the intended outcome being the shutdown of the U.S. government.  The very government that affords them a platform and a paycheck.  

Our President, who was slow and back and forth and all over the place when it came to his response to Syria, delivered a quick and definitive response to this domestic issue.  He appeared before the American people almost immediately and declared that Obamacare would not be taken hostage.  He said, "You don't get to extract a ransom for doing your job, for doing what you are supposed to be doing anyway, or just because there's a law that you don't like."  Since that initial appearance, finger pointing and ditch digging is all we have seen.  

Lisa, why are we discussing politics on Senior Agenda?  Because we discuss all things senior, remember - no topic is taboo.  If you don't think this effects seniors....well then you're just not thinking about seniors.  

So what are the consequences to seniors?  That depends on how long Washington allows this is go on.  Here's what we know now: 

• Social security checks and benefits will continue to be paid in full.  
• Medicare and Medicaid benefits will also continue as usual.  

I had conversations with one of our state liaisons to confirm this information yesterday.  However, if you lose your social security or Medicare card, you will have to wait to have those replaced. That may or may not result in a delay of services.  They are also not currently issuing proof of income letters.  

• Vital services that ensure seniors and young children have access to healthy food and meals may not have sufficient federal funds to serve all beneficiaries.  
• Call centers, hotlines and regional offices that help veterans understand their benefits are closed.
• Every one of America's national parks and monuments, from Yosemite to the Smithsonian to the Statue of Liberty, are closed.  

The includes the WWII Memorial so those senior veterans coming in on Honor Flights or otherwise scheduled to visit today may or may not get through.  I know they were getting through yesterday but folks were being fined or ticketed.  

• Research into life-threatening diseases and other areas will stop, and new patients will not be accepted into clinical trials at the National Institute of Health.  

This means that cancer patients and others with life-threatening diseases are now on hold.  

There are also going to be a number of unexpected consequences. For example, earlier this week I heard an administrator of a local nursing home reporting that they cannot hire anyone because the federal center that processes background checks is closed. Healthcare background checks help prevent unqualified and potentially dangerous people from working in the medical field. If mom or dad need rehab in the next 30-60 days and they do not receive the care they deserve due to staffing...you know who to blame.  

And did we mention the already 800,000 federal workers who are not allowed to report to work?  That effects everyone.  The longer this shutdown last, the more of a negative impact it will have on the economy.  Again, that effects everyone.  

I heard Rand Paul say yesterday that it is "ONLY 15% of the government that is shut down."  Well can you open ONLY 15% back up and stop acting like a bunch of doo doo squats with your heads stuck in the sand in need of a time out?  Call in and tell us what you think.  We want to hear from you.  More importantly, let your elected officials know what you think.  They need to hear from you.  

Please note:  No one really knows what a doo doo squat is. but we believe it sounds silly and absurd enough to work as an adjective here.  

Surveying the Senior Landscape with Lisa Stockdale

Thank you for reading this blog and listening to Senior Agenda. A great deal of research and thought go into each post and program.  We are working to survey the senior landscape in an effort to provide you with relevant information and raise awareness about senior issues and concerns.  It is reassuring to know that you care.

In the coming days, I will be offering a weekly commentary called "Surveying the Senior Landscape with Lisa Stockdale."  In other words, I will be offering my opinion.  If there is a particular topic you would like to see discussed, please let me know.  My ears are always open.  I welcome your comments, criticisms and maybe even the occasional amen.  Stay tuned.  

Jimmie Sue Swilling's Miracle

Every now and then we just need to be reminded that good people, places and things still exist.  We live in a troubled time where uncertainly, turmoil and violence seem to rule the day. Taking the high road is often seen as ineffective or self-defeating.  Operating in love is perceived as weakness.  If you take the time to listen, people assume you have nothing to say or contribute.  If you lift your voice as an advocate, folks characterize you as a trouble maker.  Listen to this episode of Senior Agenda to be encouraged.  Listen here.  Feel free to tell us what you think.  You can make a comment here or email us at senioragendawithlisa@gmail.com.  

Hilarious Voicemail Proves You Shouldn't Mess with Seniors

Senior Scams Exposed and Professional Advice Offered

Seniors are often targeted because they have resources, strong credit ratings, live alone and are generally too trusting. Types of scams discussed on Senior Agenda included the grandparent scam, the contractor scam, identity theft, sweepstakes scams, tax scams, money transfer scams and more. The panel of professionals included a representative from the Ohio Attorney General's Office and two detectives from the Columbus City Police Department.  They were able to provide a wide array of advice both in terms of how to avoid the scams and also what to do if you suspect you might be a target or victim.  

Listen to Senior Agenda - Scams against Seniors here.  To learn more about scams against seniors in general visit this Federal Bureau of Investigation website.

Members of the community including neighbors, church members and especially bank tellers were encouraged to get involved and report suspected scams against seniors to the authorities.  Seniors were encouraged to take action the minute they suspect something is amiss.  Call your local police department for more information and advice. Columbus City Police Department Detective Jacqueline Fofana directed residents of Columbus to call 614-645-2045.  

We are reminded of the familiar adage, "If it sounds to good to be true, it is."  

There is a Right Way and a Wrong Way - It Matters to Seniors

One of my dearest friends lovingly calls me Jiminy Cricket. I couldn't be the beautiful Blue Fairy or even the cute puppet whose only desire is to be loved.  Nope - I have to be the munchkin green cricket with a big mouth and lots of unsolicited advice. Now that I think about it, I can see why she calls me Jiminy Cricket.  Anyway, today I am wishing that I could make the words of the song - When You Wish Upon a Star - sung by Jiminy in Walt Disney's Pinocchio truth.

When you wish upon a star.
Makes no difference who you are.
Anything your heart desires.
Will come to you.

Regrettably, I am wiser than Jiminy and I know that it does make a difference who you are.  In fact, all of the qualifiers that we use to identify ourselves like age, race, religion, gender, national origin, and so on make a difference. I also know that we cannot look to wishful, magical, mystical solutions as we seek peace, justice, understanding and truth.  It isn't enough to wish it so.  We have to work to make it so.  The work is taxing and can be unforgiving at times.  The really disenchanting realization is that not every one wants peace, justice, understanding or truth.  Some folks are easily pacified and others just don't care.  Still others seem to be in pursuit of oppositional concepts like war, injustice, confusion and deceit. And what is it that folks desire?  At the most fundamental level, I am guessing that we desire to be free and safe. But many are not free and most are not safe.  I am not feeling too much like Jiminy right about now.   

But wait, Jiminy also says the following: 

"There's two ways to do anything.  The right way and the wrong way.  If you want to be right, do things the right way.  Because if you do things the wrong way, that's the foolish way.  And only fools do the things the foolish way, which is the wrong way - right!"  

Right!!! There is a right and a wrong way. These days everyone wants to straddle the fence.  No one wants to say what is right or wrong because that is too much like right.  It is easier to pretend to be somewhere in the middle or to claim to be neutral. Besides, no one wants to risk offending anyone.  Even if someone is wrong. Now I am starting to sound like Jiminy Cricket - right! 

When your heart is in your dreams.
No request is too extreme.

My heart is in my dreams so let me tell you what I am wishing for today:  

• To stop elder abuse, exploitation and neglect.  
• To provide better healthcare and housing options for seniors.
• To raise awareness and demand a cure for dementia and Alzheimer's. 
• To honor and protect the elderly. 
• To celebrate aging instead of practicing ageism.  
• To stop scams against seniors and to catch and punish those who prey on seniors. 
• To understand the aging process. 
• To refuse to allow seniors to live in poverty - or be homeless.  
• To listen to seniors and allow their voices to be heard.  
• To stop Medicare and Medicaid fraud. 
• To protect pensions and retirements funds.  
• To make Medicare more transparent.  
• To ensure that seniors get the same aggressive healthcare treatment as their younger counter-parts.   

These are my requests and I know they are not too extreme.  Please stand with us and work beside us as we drive Senior Agenda.  Get involved. Volunteer.  Make a difference.  Raise your voices.  Make demands of your politicians.  Donate your time and resources.  Be watchful and helpful and trustworthy.  Do right by our seniors and elderly.  Let our conscience be our guide.  It worked for Pinocchio.  

  

A Million Miles and A Trillion Tears Later - A Kidney is Found

For more than a year now, Larry Swilling has been walking the streets of South Carolina wearing a sandwich board sign indicating that he needed a kidney for his wife of 58 years - Jimmie Sue. Their story caught national attention and hundreds of people inquired about making a living kidney donation. Larry was interviewed on Senior Agenda and dozens of our own listeners and followers inquired about being the donor.  Time and again the would-be donors were disqualified. The number of potential donors seemed to be shrinking.  Larry believed anyway.   The family grew weary as they watched their parents struggle.  Larry believed anyway.  People made fun of Larry and called him unkind names and made disrespectful remarks as he walked the streets in search of a kidney.  He believed anyway.  Jimmie Sue's health continued to decline and the prospect of finding a kidney seemed to be getting more and more dismal.  Larry believed anyway.

Tomorrow in Charleston, Jimmie Sue Swilling will receive a kidney.  A kidney that it might seem Larry wished into existence, except we all know that what he did was to believe.  Don't ever underestimate the power of love.  Don't ever underestimate the power of faith.  Don't ever underestimate the power of God.  Please continue to pray that all goes well tomorrow.

UPDATE 

Jimmie Sue is reportedly doing well following yesterday's surgery.  

Larry Swilling Doesn't Need to Beg for a Kidney for his Wife Anymore

This was our report in July:

Larry and Jimmie Sue Swilling of Anderson, South Carolina are hoping for a miracle and you can help. Jimmie Sue needs a kidney soon. We were able to speak with Larry on the air on 7/18/2013 and he reports that his wife is getting weaker and weaker.  They are looking for a healthy individual with a kidney to spare and type 0 + blood type.  Larry continues to work nine hour shifts in order to keep their medical insurance in place and to cover the more than $4000 in monthly medication cost. The operation for the donor will be covered by their insurance.  

We are committed to following this story until a donor is found and a donation is made.  Look at older posts to learn more about this family and facts about making a living donation.  Follow the link below to hear the most recent interview with Larry and learn how to get tested locally. Let's work together to keep love alive.  

Listen to the complete interview with Larry on Senior Agenda.

This is our report today: 

A donor has been found.  A match has been made.  Jimmie Sue Swilling is about to receive a new kidney.  I just got off the phone with Larry and the surgery is scheduled for this Wednesday - September 11, 2013.  The family is already in Charleston at the Medical Center and we will report more when we know it.  

Don't ever underestimate the power of prayer and faith.  We serve a mighty God and now we are asking you all to pray for yet another miracle.  Please pray that all goes well on Wednesday.  

Winners of Senior Agenda's Grandparents Day Writing Contest Announced

Thank you to everyone who submitted an entry and liked the contest.  Winners will be invited to participate in our first Senior Agenda of 2014 which will air live on January 9th at 10:00am on www.talktainmentradio.com.  Visa gift card prizes will be awarded at that time.  Please do not forget to honor your own grandparents today as we celebrate Nation Grandparents Day.  We believe the winning entries speak for themselves.  

1st Place goes to Angie Shroyer who wrote this:  

My grandmother, Evaline, is an absolute saint.  She would give anyone the clothes off her back if asked.  I enjoyed spending every summer with her as a child.  I remember her making each one of her grandchildren's birthdays special by throwing huge parties for each one...15 of us I believe.  She is top chef in my book, and will not let you leave her home without eating a 4 course meal. During difficult times growing up, she brought us through without question.  She helped me as I struggled working full time and being a new mom.  Every day she encouraged me, praised me and prayed with me.  She makes each one of her great grandchildren feel just as special and loved.  She is one of the most positive and uplifting people I have ever come across in my entire life.  She is most definitely my hero and I am so thankful to be her granddaughter.

2nd Place goes to Brenda Copeland who wrote this:  

We would spend a lot of time with my father's parents.  When I was 7, my dad passed away.  After that, my grandparents would come and get me and my brothers every weekend.  If it wasn't for them doing that we would not know my dad's side of the family.  I am truly blessed for the commitment they made.  We would have missed out on the loving, caring and huge family that we have.  My great-grandparents had 12 children, 26 grandchildren and countless great grandchildren and more.  I knew we had a big family, but everyone was so close.  We make it a point to get together in the summer and we have a huge Christmas gathering every year.  I am now 45 and my grandmother passed away in April.  I was lucky enough to spend some quality time with her before her passing. She was my biggest supporter and was my best friend all throughout my life.  I love you Grandmother Bonnie!!!

3rd Place goes to Colleen Miller Edge who wrote this:

My grandpa Maynard was the most amazing man I've ever known. He was silly, funny, kind. handsome, loving, smart, hard working, and just a wonderful person.  Growing up, we lived only a mile away from him and my grandma so I saw them almost every day.  My favorite memories with my grandpa are from traveling around the family farm on the back of my grandpa's 3-wheeler.  He used to tote me around as we drove to "China."  This was the area at the very back of their property and once we got to the back fence, he would describe how different it looked on the other side of the fence because China was so far away! Haha! He was just always so playful and always doing everything he could to show his love for his family.  It will be nine years this December since he passed away and I still miss him every single day. I can still hear his voice and would give almost anything to be able to see him just once more.  The topic of this contest is "Why I Love My Grandparents." I love my grandpa because he showed what unconditional, genuine love really was.  He was everything that a grandparent is supposed to be.  I am so thankful for the time I got to spend with him. 

Love Can Stand the Test of Time and So Can Janna Yeshanova

These days folks are leaving Russia primarily for economic reasons, although more and more are growing weary at life under Vladimir Putin's rule.  Janna Yeshanova left due to the threat of Jewish persecution and violence against Soviet Jews following the dismantling of the Soviet Union in the late 1980's.  She chronicled her journey from Russia to the United States in her book Love Is Never Past Tense.  

Love Is Never Past Tense is a love story.  It is a love story that pivots on the emotions of a man and a woman, a mother and a daughter, a people and their motherland.   It is an emotional roller-coaster of young love, idealism, relations, political discord, exodus, reunion and true love.  It will break you heart, then warm it, then do it all over again.  The book is a work of fiction based on Janna's own experiences.  One cannot be sure where she took poetic license but something tells me there is more autobiography here than fiction. Everyone knows that real life makes for better intrigue and more depth anyway.  Love Is Never Past Tense has both.  It will leave you with a renewed hope that anything is possible.  It is available in both English and Russian. To learn more about the book or to purchase a copy visit this website.  You can also purchase a Kindle Edition for just $3.99 and read other reviews at Amazon. 

About the author... 

To learn more about author Janna Yeshanova, listen to Senior Agenda at talktainmentradio.com on Oct 10th, 2013. During the interview, Janna comments on a variety of topics including the Jewish community as a global family, life and opportunity in America and the power of love.  

Janna is the founder and principal of Life-Spark, LLC.  Today Janna uses her life lessons and talent to help inspire and motivate others as a dynamic and powerful life coach.  She is a high-end organizational trainer, development professional and motivational speaker.  To learn more visit http://life-spark.com/.  

Homelessness Is Especially Brutal for Seniors

This video wasn't meant to highlight the fact that homelessness among seniors is on the rise in this country but it does.  It is difficult to guess the ages of the seniors depicted here because living on the streets and in shelters causes premature aging.  While we typically define seniors as 65+, in the context of homeless seniors we are talking about those ages 50+.  

Homelessness is an especially brutal proposition for our elders because they experience increased vulnerability and health risks. Can you imagine living on the streets or in a shelter and also suffering from age-related health conditions like incontinence, diabetes, severe arthritis, loss of balance, dementia or Alzheimer's, Parkinson's Disease, and vision or hearing impairment?  Can you imagine needing daily medications that you cannot afford, retain, or house?  

According to Dr. Tom Byrne, a research assistant professor in the School of Social Policy and Practice at the University of Pennsylvania, about 28% of all homeless adults were age 50 or older in 2011.  That is up from 23% in 2007.  The number is expected to continue to rise as the baby boomers age given the difficult economy and the effects of yesteryear's recession on retirements, pensions and savings.  

Solutions are multifaceted.  To learn more about long-term solutions, visit the Homelessness Resource Center.  To volunteer for the Good Neighbors Picnic in Columbus, Ohio on September 28th, click here.

Last Call for National Grandparent's Day Writing Contest - Deadline Sept 7th at Midnight

As you know, we celebrate seniors and we take every opportunity to encourage our followers and listeners to do the same.  So in honor of National Grandparents Day we are sponsoring a "Why I Love My Grandparents" writing contest.  Take a moment to write a paragraph about what makes one of your grandparents so special or memorable and post it on the blog or facebook.  The deadline for submission is September 7th at midnight and the winner will be announced on Grandparents Day - Sept 8th.  The 1st place winner will win a $75 Visa gift card and an invitation to be a guest on Senior Agenda.  2nd place will win a $50 Visa gift card and 3rd place will win a $25 Visa gift card

Entries will be judged based on content and sincerity. We have been having issues with the comments section of the blog but if you can post your paragraph below in the comments section that will be appreciated. You can also post your paragraph as a comment on facebook and we will see to it that all entries get consideration. You can also share the post on your own facebook.  Ask your children to participate and post on their behalves if they are too young for social media. Everyone is welcome to participate regardless of age. Let's work together and celebrate our grandparents.  

Grandparents play a unique role in the lives of their grandchildren. They generally represent stability in the face of hardship or change. They are instrumental in handing down habits of the heart and faith. They work as watchdogs and advocates.  They warm our hearts and spoil our souls.    

"Every time a child is born, a grandparent is born too."  

Click on the comments directly below to add your entry.  

WAR - What Is It Good for? Lessons from an ex-Marine Who Served.

Ed Kuehnle and his 23-year old son Eddie in the studio prior to their interview on Senior Agenda.

The same year Edwin Starr introduced us to "War" - the anti-Vietnam protest song that defined his career, Ed Kuehnle enlisted in the Marines out of a desire to serve his country and protect those threatened by communism. These days Ed and his son Eddie promote ideas in song that reflect many of the prevailing sentiments in Edwin's song from 1969.   They are also mindful to pay tribute to all of the men and women who have and continue to put their lives on the line for our country through military service.  

During the interview, Ed recalled his life-changing experiences in Vietnam with emphasis on notions of brotherhood, fear, weariness, guilt, and the compelling desire to return home.  He provided heart-warming details of his homecoming and then painful confessions of the years of struggle or aftermath that followed.  He also spoke of peace with the hope that it is achievable.  

His 23-year old son, Eddie had some insightful contributions of his own.  In fact, he offered words of kindness and wisdom that one might expect from a much older soul. He paid tribute to his father and spoke of lessons from his father including tolerance, respect, gratitude and, of course, an appreciation and love of music.  

Listen to the complete interview including performances of "Til the Last Shots Fired" and a rendition of Marvin Gaye's "What's Going On"  here.   

As we anxiously await decisions about the direction our country will be taking in response to the Syrian government's actions against their own people, this edition of Senior Agenda makes for thought-provoking discussion and reflection.  

Complete interview with Ed and Eddie Kuehnle on Senior Agenda.

Our First R Rated Post - The Fruitcake Lady

Senior Agenda's Pick for National Assisted Living Week - The Abbingtons

The National Center for Assisted Living (NCAL) recently announced "Homemade Happiness" as the theme for the 2013 National Assisted Living Week which will be celebrated from September 8-14 this year. According to the NCAL, the theme celebrates "the bond created by staff, residents and families as they build warm, welcoming and vibrant homes for residents."  Visit the NCAL website to learn more.

With this theme in mind, we would like to recognize the Abbington Assisted Living communities in Powell, Pickerington, and Upper Arlington as Senior Agenda's pick for National Assisted Living week.  Visit their website to learn more.  These are small, single story, inviting communities with all inclusive pricing and most importantly - kind and caring staffs. They were recently approved for the Medicaid-waiver program which means they are now in position to provide homes for those who are and are not able to private pay.  They also pride themselves on specially tailored wellness programs which include falls prevention programs and more.

We interviewed key members within the organization recently on Senior Agenda including the Founder, President and an Activities Director.  Click here to hear that interview. 

National Grandparents Day Writing Contest

The Forget Me Not Flower is the official flower for National Grandparents Day in the United States.  

As you know, we celebrate seniors and we take every opportunity to encourage our followers and listeners to do the same.  So in honor of National Grandparents Day we are sponsoring a "Why I Love My Grandparents" writing contest.  Take a moment to write a paragraph about what makes one of your grandparents so special or memorable and post it on the blog.  The deadline for submission is September 7th and the winner will be announced on Grandparents Day - Sept 8th.  The 1st place winner will win a $75 Visa gift card and an invitation to be a guest on Senior Agenda.  2nd place will win a $50 Visa gift card and 3rd place will win a $25 Visa gift card. If physically coming to the studio presents a challenge due to geography or job or school commitments, we can always arrange a phone interview.  Submissions will be judged based on content and sincerity.  Everyone is welcome to participate regardless of age.  

Background

There seems to be disagreement about the origin of National Grandparents Day but regardless it was signed into law by President Jimmy Carter in 1978.  A proclamation on September 6th, 1979 made the day official and it was designated the first Sunday in September following Labor Day.  

Possible origins include:

• Some folks say it was first proposed by Michael Goldgar in the 1970's.  Goldgar spent $11,000 of his own money in lobbying efforts that included 17 trips to Washington DC over a seven-year span to meet with law makers to advocate for the day.

• Others say it was Marian Lucille Herndon McQuade, a homemaker in West Virginia, who pushed the day to observance.  She worked relentlessly in the 1970's to educate people about the contributions of seniors and she urged people to adopt a grandparent.  

Grandparents play a unique role in the lives of their grandchildren. They generally represent stability in the face of hardship or change. They are instrumental in handing down habits of the heart and faith. They work as watchdogs and advocates.  They warm our hearts and spoil our souls.    

"Every time a child is born, a grandparent is born too."  

Click on the comments directly below to add your entry.  

Learn more about the Good Neighbor's Picnic - September 28th in Columbus, Ohio

It's Not Thanksgiving but the Homeless of Central Ohio Need You NOW

Volunteer here for the Good Neighbors Picnic 2013.  

William "Bill" McCulley, founder and organizer of the Good Neighbors Picnic, was interviewed on Senior Agenda on September 19th to discuss this year's picnic.  Listen here.  Did you know that 1/3 of all the homeless people in our country are children?  Did you know that somewhere between 10% - 15% of the homeless in our country are seniors. To add insult to injury, many of those seniors served our country through military service.  The homeless people that you see on the streets account for less than 10% of the homeless population.  

There are multiple reasons for homelessness but the primary reason continues to be lack of employment, resources and opportunity.  We call that poverty.  It's not as complicated as some folks seem to want us to believe.  The solutions are multifaceted but the primary reason for homelessness is simply that people cannot afford housing.  

William and his team of volunteers have worked tirelessly to organize this event. They are working to set up right now as you read this.  Tomorrow they will offer services that would have cost upwards of a quarter of million dollars on a budget that comes in much closer to the $10,000 mark.  They make this happens by soliciting and securing donations from a multitude of restaurants, bookstores, local merchants and individuals.  The picnic presents a special opportunity to make a difference in the lives of the homeless by sharing a meal and helping them to prepare for the ensuing winter months.  

The forecast is calling for clear skies and moderate temperatures.  It is going to be a beautiful day and the picnic will come off without your participation.  But the truth is help is still needed.  Follow the link above to volunteer today to make a difference tomorrow -September 28th, 2013 in Columbus Ohio.  Senior Agenda has organized a group of volunteers and we are looking forward to seeing you there. Call me at 614-800-5550 with questions.  

I am 97 and Homeless.

I am 97 and homeless.  What are you going to do about?  You could ease your conscience by patting me on the shoulder and offering a sympathetic smile.  People are generally afraid to touch the homeless so that would feel good for the moment.  Or you could offer me a a few dollars so that I can ease my hunger.  That will make my day a little more bearable.   Or you could think to yourself how sad it makes you to see me. Or even mention my predicament to a friend before your conversation turns to more relevant chatter. That will help raise awareness.   But none of it changes the fact that I am 97 and homeless.  I will be 97 and homeless tomorrow - unless of course I am 98 and homeless or dead.

The video below hones in on statistics that correlate closely to percentages in our own Athens County here in the State of Ohio which according to the most recent data available (20007-2011 American Community Survey, U.S. Census Bureau) is currently experiencing poverty rates at 31.5% compared to the state average of 14.8%.  Experts agree homelessness among seniors is on the rise and you only need to open your eyes to see that homelessness among the elderly is a problem right here in Franklin County which is also experiencing poverty rates (17.4%) above the state average.  

At the time I discovered this important clip on You Tube it had been viewed a whopping 147 times.  Let's work together to change that.  I am not an expert on homelessness but we will be researching this topic in the coming days and we will continue to post in an attempt to help raise awareness.

In the meantime, please consider joining the Senior Agenda team as a volunteer for the 2013  Good Neighbors Picnic which provides a free meal and winter clothing and more to the homeless of central Ohio. Learn more about the Good Neighbors Picnic 2013.  Please email us at senioragendawithlisa@gmail.com if you are interested in being a part of our team of volunteers for this year's event scheduled for Saturday, September 28 in Columbus Ohio.  We will provide Senior Agenda T-shirts and a free dinner to anyone who signs up to be a part of our team.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                

The Raging Grannies of North Carolina Raise their Voices and Middle Fingers

They say a picture is worth a thousand words but I am guessing this one might be worth a few more.  This group of senior activists joined others including students, civil rights advocates, and clergy from all over North Carolina this past May to register their disapproval for increasingly conservative State politics.  According to an article in News One for Black America, about 30 people were arrested at the statehouse in a demonstration designed to force the state legislature to reconsider some of the bills that would reduce funding for preschool education, reduce aid to the state university system and ease restrictions on gun purchasing.  

"One of our sayings is 'Stay in Trouble" and that's what we intend to do becuase we have to fight against anything that threatens the future of our grandchildren, "said Vicki Ryder, one of the grannies who was arrested at the protest.  

Flushing Stereotypical Notions about Grannies Down the Toilet One Protest at a Time

They sing off key, dress like sisters of Minnie Pearl and offer smiles as they take it to the streets.  They are commonly known as the Raging Grannies and in Madison, Wisconsin they are getting arrested and fined as a result of their participation in peaceful protests.  

The Raging Grannies of Madison have joined the Solidarity Singers in Wisconsin at the State Capitol to protest what they consider to be social and economic injustice every weekday at noon since March of 2011.  It looks like the Capitol Police have grown weary of the singing protesters because they have been arresting them, handcuffing them, and writing them $200 - $300  citations - grannies and all.  In fact, grannies, firefighters, ministers - even observers and a journalist have been arrested in the past 30 days. That's a lot of state revenue considering over 200 arrests have already been made.  The protesters are being arrested for a variety of charges including not complying with a court order that requires them to get a permit to assemble. The Raging Grannies and other members of the Solidarity Singers are standing on their 1st Amendment Right to Assembly: "Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the Freedom of Speech, or of the Press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances." 

Who are the Raging Grannies of Madison?  They are a group of relentless senior women who turn the stereotype of the sweet little old lady who is agreeable at every turn and knows how to mind her own business in silence and a rocking chair inside out.  According to their websites, they promote peace, justice, the environment, and social & economic equality through song and humor ...  

Membership is open to all older women who know that "war is stupid" and that for the sake of our children and grandchildren we must sing out for peace, economic & social justice and the environment. We sing primarily in the Madison area, but the Grannies "have songs, will travel" anywhere in the state. We sing wherever we are invited -- and sometimes where we're not!

We are a "dis-organization" without formal leadership. Each Granny does what she can and we make decisions by consensus. As it says on the Raging Grannies International website at http://raginggrannies.org/, "We are totally non-violent, believe in only peaceful protest (with lots of laughter), work for the 'many not the few' … and see our work as the spreading green branches of a great tree, rising up to provide shelter and nourishment for those who will come after us." That's true -- but we Grannies also want to have fun, refuse to be silenced, and will sing out against those things that harm the planet we will leave to our grandkids.

The first Raging Grannies protesters originated in Canada in 1987 when a group of white, middle class, educated older women came together in reaction to perceived threats posed by the visit of US Navy warships and submarines in the waters surrounding Victoria which were believed to carry or be powered by nuclear reactors and equipment with nuclear arms.   Since then groups have sprung up all across Canada and the US.  They have a "herstory" of employing creative and satirical efforts to raise awareness, challenge authority and protest.  Consider the following excerpt from a thesis written by Ph,D. Candidate Carole Ray:  
"They first experimented with street theater to bring attention to the presence of those US vessels in the harbor.  Then they dressed in lab coat and armed with makeshift Geiger counters and turkey  basters, they tested water puddles for radiation at popular malls.  When curious bystanders asked about their activities they were told about the US vessels in the harbor, which was not in the newspapers."  

Why Call the Central Ohio Area Agency on Aging?

Bethany Anderson, Public Information Director, and Lynn Dobb, Caregiver Advocate and Education and Training Manager,  joined us on 8/8/13 to discuss a variety of topics related to the mandate, mission and work of the COAAA.  The reoccurring message was simply this:  if you are a senior living in central Ohio and you need help or assistance of any kind, please contact or call the COAAA today.   They are an incredible and tremendous resource for seniors.

Topics of discussion included the Ohio PASSPORT Program, Assisted Living Waiver Program, free Caregiver Support groups, and Medicare education.  As you can see, although we are quick to associate COAAA with the PASSPORT Program they oversee, they are instrumental in proving many other senior and caregiver services.

Don't forget to attend or participate in the upcoming Senior Living Festival.  The festival will be held on Oct 31st, 2013 from 10 am - 2pm at Veterans Memorial at 300 West Broad Street in Columbus, Ohio.  Click here for more information.

Listen to Senior Agenda featuring COAAA here.

15 Years after Retirement Senior Activist Refuses to Sit Down or Be Quiet

Senior activist, author, talk show host  - S. Yolanda Robinson. 

Yolanda embodies an old school work ethic and commitment that push us to talk about and be about progressive changes that fly directly in the face of the good ole' boy's network.  Those who mistaken her energetic giggle for silliness or her patient persistence for weakness will surely be in for a rude awakening.  She is a senior activist and a proud woman of faith who has already been instrumental in helping to fuel the civil rights and women's movement.  

But she's not done yet. Since she retired in 1998, she has continued her work as an activist, written a book and is now the host of a radio talk show called All in Our Family heard on talktainmentradio.com on Saturdays and Tuesdays. 

During our recent interview, Yolanda recalled her employment at The Ohio State University where she worked relentlessly to raise awareness and effect change around issues of pay equality, child care benefits and family leave for women.  Her work landed her an appearance on The Today Show in the mid 1980's.  

In 2011 her first book - There's Magic in the Blackberry Patch was published.  Learn more about "There's Magic in the Blackberry Patch" here.  The book is a children's historical fiction based on Poindexter Village, one of the first low-income housing projects in the nation, which is currently being torn down in Columbus Ohio.   Learn more about Poindexter Village here.  Yolanda  interviewed numerous long term residents of Poindexter Village before writing There's Magic in the Blackberry Patch which reminds us of the importance of community and service learning.  

Today Yolanda is the host of All in Our Family which is a talk show that covers family issues, problems and dynamics with an emphasis on solution.  Listen to All In Our Family here.   When Yolanda believed that her own family was losing cohesiveness, part of her solution was to begin producing a family newsletter.  

We owe Yolanda a special thank you for her part in helping to make Senior Agenda a reality.  She was and continues to be a great source of encouragement and support for our work on behalf of seniors.  

Listen to Senior Agenda featuring S. Yolanda Robinson

Rosemary Barkes: Working to Expose Dementia Like a Boss

Rosemary Barkes, The Dementia Dance 2013 

Featured guest on Senior Agenda - 8/1/2013

Rosemary Barkes appeared on Senior Agenda on 8/1/2013 to discuss her book, The Dementia Dance, published earlier this year.  She shared snapshots of her mother and their journey as they stood together in her mother's "dance with dementia."

The Dementia Dance is a practical how to guide offering real advice and direction when it comes to navigating the inroads of dementia - a progressive disease for which there is yet no cure.  The book is a quick and easy read offering insightful commentary based on Rosemary's experiences and observations as an active participant in her mother's progression.  It provides an honest account of the pros and cons of memory care. It paints a vivid picture of the everyday frustrations of living with dementia for both patient and family. It utilizes humor and elevates hope in the face of dementia.  It is a must read for everyone who loves anyone with dementia.

On Senior Agenda, Rosemary spoke of the need for an advocate and  the importance of activities in the lives of those with dementia.  She shared memories about the moment she realized her mother was struggling and the day she finally accepted that her mother was dying.  She also spoke about the guilt and denial she experienced as a caregiver. And yes - there were happy times like the day her mother participated in a fashion show at the assisted living community where she lived.   Listen here.

The Dementia Dance can be purchased online at buy book now for just $13.00.  It is truly a useful tool for anyone dealing with dementia.  Rosemary is a brave and delightful soul willing to share private moments in the hope that it will help pave the way for others.  Thank you Rosemary!